He found me or I found him?

It was almost after 8 months we met, we decided to marry. What took us so long? It was nothing but the destiny. Some might find it meaningful to understand each other before they marry and some might find it strange who love the traditional way to bond with a person but then what is the right way? What is this marriage all about?

Two strangers with totally two different lifestyles and two different worlds becoming one. Marriage is not as easy as it seems to all. It is neither as complicated as people picturize. It happens with the right one at the right time and it is a feeling that can only be experienced. It was 2 years back I decided its high time to get married. Infact marriage was in my checklist as one of the task that has to be completed by the year end but each time I met someone or I spoke to any, it was just another conversation and just another stranger whom I would really not be interested in. Meeting different people with different personalities and discussing about our views and opinions to understand the mindset was good but that compatibility that I was looking for in a partner, I could never find in one. Finally I gave up and made my mind to go ahead and marry a guy that my parents liked the most

On the other hand, there was this guy who wanted to marry a girl he knew very well for almost 6 years of span. After realising the special bond between them, he introduced the girl to his parents and kith and kin. He almost planned how his life should be and fast forwarded his future to take the final step to get married which failed in the end as the girl had a change of plan. He was broke and was ready to marry any girl his parents wanted him to marry and was transparent about his past. He knew the need for his partner to know about him before he would enter the new phase of his life. He was mentally not prepared but still was ready for the marriage as his parents were getting old and the responsibilities were getting piled up

One fine day I received a message in my Facebook addressing my profile in one of the matrimony site from a guy and our parents spoke with each other. I met the guy in the most unexpected way. My first impression about this guy was formed when we spoke over a call for the first time. There seemed something unique between us and there was a spark even before we met. The next day we met and we both were into each other like we knew already. For a week, everything seemed magical and we were building out dream future and everything smashed all of a sudden when the guy rolled back to his past and was unsure about the relation. The one thought that kept pulling him back was if a girl who loved for 6 years can abandon and leave so easily how can a girl within such a little span become so close and one thought that kept pushing me forward was, he had nothing to hide from me and he was in pain. I absolutely loved him for everything he did and I thought he had a point to think upon.

He decided to stay away from relations for a while and understand himself better and I decided to help him out in every possible way I can because deep inside I know how much I loved him. We fought, we planned on giving up, we had multiple arguments but in the end we stayed together . the best part in our relation was we never kept pointing at each other’s past and we forgive each other. Today when we sit back and think what really happened with our lives, it was my dream to marry a guy who is honest, sweet and who is pure at heart and him, he wanted a girl who would love him like crazy. In fact we both met the real personalities we wanted to marry in our thoughts and dreams.

May be this is how it is meant to happen. Love doesn’t need a perfect space or a perfect person. It doesn’t look for a perfect past or a decided future. If your heart is pure and if you dare to dream about what you really want in your life without a second thought, things manifest exactly the way you wish for. Marriage is not about winning or getting what only one person wants in a relation, it happens the perfect way when both the souls bond in a peculiar way